At times, our own light goes out and is rekindled by a spark from another person. Each of us has cause to think with deep gratitude of those who have lighted the flame within us. – Albert Schweitzer
Gratitude is from the Latin word “gratus comes the word meaning ‘pleasing, thankful’...
some books define it as the quality of being thankful or readiness to show appreciation to something. Not only showing but the feeling attached to it can clearly show the extent to which one is grateful for what he or she has received no matter how small.
Most people hope and pray for a better life, and they stress on the word “Better” like there’s something wrong with their present lives and as such need an urgent saving.
But how do you expect to get more when you are not grateful for what you have now?
When you begin to be grateful even for the negative things in your life seeing them as something to learn from, you tend to tell God and the universe to bring you more good things so you can thank him more.
Whenever you think of the life you are living now to be so wrong with nothing good coming out of it, you begin to direct your attention to it and tend to attract more of the negative stuff of which you do not want.
It’s like gifting something to someone and all they say is “you should have given me that one too or the other” without even thanking you for the first one. Ungrateful people complain about the one thing you have not done for them instead of being thankful for the thousands of things done.
There is this story of a bird that was suffering too much, it was sick almost looking like the walking dead. One day this bird saw a man who was going to heaven and asked him to find out when its suffering will be over. The man met an angel and told him about the bird, the reply from the angel was its suffering will last over 70 years. Feeling sorry for the bird the man asked the angel again what the bird can do to ease the suffering, then the angel replied “The bird should say Thank you for everything, all the time”. On his return, the man told the bird just as he was informed. So the bird starting saying “Thank you for everything“, every minute and even when the suffering and pain worsened until it was completely healed. In the end, the bird didn’t have to suffer for 70 years because he began appreciating each life he was given thereby being grateful.
Happiness is not about getting what you want all the time, its about loving what you have and being grateful for it. But what do we do? We spend most of our time complaining and worrying about what we want and do not have yet, forgetting that the more we think and concentrate on what we do not want we end up attracting more of it.
To be grateful means to find a blessing in everything you have even if it’s negative. Ask yourself how grateful you have been even for the past months of this year. Were you grateful that the COVID-19 pandemic brought your life to a halt? That you were laid off your work when production became slow and the employer realized that he or she can’t pay you as expected? Grateful that your business collapsed due to the outbreak? Grateful that the partial lock-down had you staying at home and having to go through annoying moments of spending weeks alone with a nagging wife or an ungrateful husband? Or have you ever been grateful that 5 years after college you are still unemployed and dependent on your family while your mates work in big factories, riding your dream car, and even raising a family? Are you grateful that even after 25 years of marriage you are still without a child, not even a single miscarriage and you have to go through each day with people naming you as barren? Grateful that after so many years of marriage, struggling together to earn, it fails, you are denied of your rights and you have to live facing the world after divorce? Grateful that from birth you have to suffer from a chronic or genetic condition every day?
We think of all that and worry so much about it. But have you also thought that maybe this year has been as it is, filled with countless lost souls, grieving hearts, and pain resulting from the pandemic to create something new for the world. Not that it was and has been okay to lose all those people, lose your job, or have to go through the worst at home.
But maybe it was to help build our strength, challenge us to do more than we have always been limiting ourselves to, pull down the walls we have kept as boundaries to us finding happiness in our relationships, and push us out of our comfort zones. Or maybe God is reminding as of who is, and what he can do. Maybe he is taking us through a process that requires us to skin ourselves first.
The fact is Gratitude is an essential part of being present, when you go deeply into the present, gratitude arises spontaneously. Also when you focus on Gratitude the tide of disappointment goes out and the tide of love rules; thus the energy of gratitude pushes you to feel more happy and thankful.
Therefore empty your cup of misery, self-pity, regrets, worry, and fill it up with gratitude. There and then you will have what you want the most since the mind will be centered on good and healthy things, and you will attract more of it. So sometimes we see people who are always increasing and getting more of what they desire, its because they are always grateful for the little they receive. Don’t get jealous, rather learn their attitude of being grateful and you will receive the same.
Keep a gratitude journal, and everyday try and write at least five (5) things you are grateful for. It can even be seeing the smile on a little girl’s face or meeting a new person. As you do so your heart and mind will be open to seeing the beauty in even the negative stuff, and you will begin to receive loads and loads of what will keep that energy of gratitude.
Nothing good can come into your life unless you are grateful for what you have Now. Learn to relax and be in your “NOW”, there is always a reason to why things happen the way they do.