The first instinct of a normal dog after seeing its reflection through a mirror is to think of it as another dog so it either try playing or barking at it. With the case of one of the dogs my family had it totally hated mirrors and would attack anyone who tried to show him its reflection, sounds strange right?
Some facts have proven that dogs can not make themselves out in the mirror reflection but this dog actually did or maybe we thought it did, its name was Peace. It did have cute eyes and its face looked more like a wolf than a dog which was okay. Aside from its looks, Peace was quite different from the other dogs in terms of behavior so it was not loved as much as the others were. It was somehow selfish and hated the thought of having to share with any other dog. Sometimes it would trick the other dogs to leave the house so he wouldn’t have to share during meal time. It would often beat up the younger ones and was so much of an attention seeker. Anything bad was attributed to him since was clear definition of the word stubborn.
My younger siblings would often make fun of it and tell it “you’re too ugly, look at those eyes and that face is nothing like the others”. We would sometimes take a mirror to him and say “Look at yourself”. At first it would turn its gaze away and try not to look into the mirror but as time went on, he would attack the bearer of the mirror. Peace was constantly being told that and so it isolated itself from the other dogs, it hated mirrors and often looked angry. It was totally a dog no guest would like to be around at a single look.
I have just given out one part of its life yet some people will be so quick to judge him without trying to figure out the unsaid part. Well, here it follows.
Among the three dogs we had then, Peace although the youngest was the only dog that was chosen to lived alone for about 3 to 4 years in our uncompleted house for security reasons with nobody to feed it or give it water at a tender age. It was basically living as a stray dog, depending on the people living in the neighboring houses for food. He was the happiest each time we visited the house and would be so sorrowful when we had to leave. It would run after our car as we leave, barking and wouldn’t stop till we were out of trace. It was often a sad scene like a child begging its mother not to leave him behind. Peace lived a tough life always struggling to survive. I guess that was why it never wanted to share with the other dogs who lived a comfortable life being loved and fed so well. There was nobody around to love it or attend to its wound whenever it got injured and nobody to play with, yet we were so fast to call it selfish and so unfriendly to the other dogs. Well, it never had a friend to begin with yet nobody understood that and only saw Peace as the stubborn one. But I guess if we had ever lived on the street we would have understood it better.
Now I look back on my days as a child and as a teenager remembering all those I was quick to judge in my heart. I look back now and I know that their story might have been different if ever they had the chance to be in the environment I grew up in.
When you don’t know how life has been for someone, you will never understand why they live as they do now. You might probably think of yourself as better than them but think for a minute;
If ever you were to switch places with them, do you think you would have survived like they did?
We live in a world where almost everything seems as a competition, everyone wants to feel that they are more advantageous and well mannered than the other. Some parents feel they are better at parenting than others, they see the wards of their fellow and instead of praying for them they are just happy and bless God for not giving them “that“. Children are blessing and God never gives a corrupt child to anyone. It can be said that some parents are so not their best at parenting yet no parent wants their child to grow up wayward even when the training they are giving them isn’t good enough, since no other person can love their child more than they do love them.
We feel like some people are so different from us, so uncultured, unfriendly with loads of mood swings. Well, I tell you today we all at some point exhibit some level of mood swings and if you do not know a person’s story you will never understand their pain. The best we can ever do for each other as humans is to live trying to understand them even when we have no reason to do so. Let’s act like we don’t even see the negative change in them.
As much as I would love for anyone to be concerned about me, I don’t need them to act like they are here to offload my burden as hypocritically as most people do in the lives of some others. PLEASE, that is my burden which is going to yield me my crown someday not yours, and as far as I can tell we all do carry one. Therefore be concerned with offloading yours not that of the person standing next to you. All that we ever need from each other is to be loved and understood, nothing less, nothing more.
While I was still in the college I recall the attendants in the Babies Home near my campus would often encourage us to come visit them. If nothing at all just pick up a baby put him on your chest and just cuddle so they may feel loved. There are a lot of things that we can or could have changed in our lives and in the lives of some others if only we show or had shown much love.
Christians feel the change in their lives by the single act of selfless love shown by Jesus Christ so many years past. As much as I know, love changes everything, it even can melt the hardened heart of the beast. If you doubt that then you need to meet the author of
“Beauty and the Beast”.
When we learnt to love our dog (peace) it changed so much than we ever thought it could ever be. Our lives can only become better when we learn to love purely and more.
Lets put an end to being judgemental, put away our self-righteous attitude, then have the mark of love burned deep into our hearts so as to become the Love Brand.