Patience is the capacity to accept or tolerate delay, problem or suffering without becoming annoyed or anxious.
Millions of people would like to see things happen in an instant. They want to get something done, achieve a goal but would like it to happen now rather than later. Well if you are one then you may actually be doing yourself more harm than good. Which is so because in order to excel in life and achieve your goals you need to utilize the Art of Patience.
Ralph Waldo Emerson said it best in a simple line: “Adopt the pace of nature, her secret is patience”
Nature’s process works perfectly and has a great deal of patience. Its like planting a seed, you water it, leave it for some time, then at the right time that seed turns into a flower, vegetable or whatever seed was planted. Note carefully: being patient does not mean being ideal or not doing any work.
Firstly, the seed had to be planted, nurtured, and left alone to begin to grow and spring roots under the soil, then at the right time it began to rise above the surface into exactly what its meant to be. Patience does not mean you sit and wait. Instead you have to do the work first and then wait. It’s just so unfortunate that most people do not practice this process and end up feeling pressed to change this right away. You work against nature when you do that and in the end you only get pushed back further.
Sometimes Patience may seem like its taking so long to happen even after doing all the work required but know what you have sown or ordered, special orders mostly takes a lot of time unlike a normal order even at a restaurant.
I asked a twelve year old girl once, what she understood by the word Patience and how it has ever been beneficial to her. This is what she said:
” Patience is calming down and having time for something to happen without giving up or getting annoyed; I was writing a paper and had read over and over again a particular question but could not understand it, time was far spent and everyone was busily solving their own. I knew I could skip it and answer another, it was the only one I did not understand and although there were other questions to tackle I felt it was the only one I needed to solve. So I tried to read and understand each word and when I finally did I summed it together and finally got the answer to that question. In the end, it earned me my pass mark since I had the highest score in tackling that question”.
Its like walking barefooted on fire peacefully, knowing very well of the sore its caused yet you ignore and only look forward to get to the end line successfully.
When you are impatient, when you do not trust and accept that things will work out. You actually get slowed down, distracted or end up on the wrong track then you wonder: “how did I get here?” Sometimes we rush into something not because we are prepared for that but possibly because everyone was doing same and we felt we were lacking behind.
Impatience can cause someone to miss a diamond since they saw a lot of stones but did not exercise patience to go through thoroughly. The society today wants instant satisfaction. We want something that will fix everything, food that are ready in an instant forgetting we are nature and nature does not operate instantly.
Lack of patience has caused a lot of people to end up with the work they never thought of doing, live the life they don’t want to or be in marriages they ended up regretting. The sad part is most people associate patience to weakness, rather its a sign of strength, Hope and Faith. Patience is choosing to control your emotions and not letting your emotion control you, how then can that ever be a sign of weakness.
Just because it’s not happening right now does not mean it never will. You will get there when you are meant to get there and not one moment sooner.
Patience serves as protection against wrongs as clothes do against cold. For if you put on more clothes as the cold increases, it will have no power to hurt you. So in like manner you must grow in patience when you meet with great wrongs, and they will then be powerless to vex your mind.
Leonardo da Vinci
So Relax! Breath! and be patient!