Have you ever asked yourself this question; “Who really am I?”
Lets take it from here;
How many of us were often seen or used to see ourselves as ugly, unattractive, weak, weird, the rejected, unsociable, one anyone can pick on, and the list goes on and then one day you wake up and you are totally the opposite.
How many of us still see ourselves that way?
kindly raise up your hand, don’t be shy, no one will even know because you are probably reading this alone. Lol!
Let me simply say you don’t know who you are YET, so you only stick to what others think you are or what you think you are;
Identity Crisis – a feeling of being uncertain about who or what you are.
A 7years old girl’s mum was once telling me her daughter says she will be a doctor in future, so I asked the girl why she wanted to be a doctor and her response was “because my daddy says so”. It may sound funny but she is just a child and being a child involves doing and liking whatever your parent like and do, not that its lovely but the child has no understanding to that, they are just following directions. She is likely to grow up and want to be something else.
But then most of us although not a child, act just like them. We allow ourselves to be controlled by others by believing in what they see us to be, we then stick to it and ignore any possibility that they may be wrong about us. We neglect the importance of knowing ourselves, who we truly are.
Some people when this puzzle is laid before them “Who are you?” only think of the name they bear. So I’m pushed to ask this question; “Are we only what we are named as?”
Who am I? or Who are you? goes a long way to identifying what we are, who we want to be, our purpose on earth and not what other people think or see us to be or how lowly we see our own selves.
Often our suffering in life is because of not knowing our true identity. Until you realize your true Self, you will believe yourself to be the name that has been given to you…
“No offense, but I think you’re Ugly”
I’m sure most of you were probably shocked or had a changed of facial expression after reading the above, but don’t take it to heart because it was just a mind game. I know for sure you are not ugly, but asked yourself, if you’re not why then did that sentence affect you?
I ask again; Who are You?
You are not who you thought you were in the past, neither are you who think you will become in the future, you are the Present, the Now, at this very moment what or who you see yourself as. That is who you are and that is what others see you as since is what you are projecting yourself to be.
Therefore if you start preaching the word of God on the street or to even friends they nickname you “Pastor” not because you are one officially but that is what you are projecting yourself to be. Likewise if you pretend to be drunk and act like a drunkard people are going to call you a “Drunkard”, not because you’re one but since that is what they see when they look at you.
Who people describe you to be doesn’t necessarily define truly who you are, its just what they think you are, what they see you to be or what they expect you to be. That is why its important to know who you are so as not to limit yourself to what others think you are. As well as growing to attaining and exploring your full potentials, giving out to the world what you were created to fill it with.
In reality, you are an eternal Soul. For infinite past lives the Soul has been hidden beneath a veil of ignorance. Due to this, we have been unable to experience the true Self. With the grace of the Spiritual Master, it is now possible to realize your true Self through a process called Self Realization. You can only know who you are when you become True to your own self which comes with making time to study yourself, understand yourself, and believing in yourself since no one else will.
The only person who cares more and is concerned about you, is YOU. Sad enough most people you surround ourselves with hardly wish for you to come to the stage of Self Realization because when that happens they will have no use of you.
Identity Crisis is one major thing that limits people from reaching their dreams and goals in life. Its what brings fear and limits independency.
The mere fact that you are in an enviable position in life or done checking the boxes or even in your retirement age doesn’t mean you are way pass the line of Identity Crisis. As far as where you are doesn’t give you a sense of completeness or fulfilment, you are still lost in your own world and probably living in the world of others. Being who they say you are.
To the question again..
WHO ARE YOU?