Fulfilling you, is to feel satisfied because you are using all your skills, qualities and so on. Something that not everyone do or attain, some people don’t see it as a need, others don’t know they are suppose to, and some others see it as being selfish or self centered so they try to stay far away from it.
We are taught to be quiet, not to speak out for ourselves, and not to be selfish.
But if you don’t take care of yourself, who else will?
Nobody! Everyone is busy caring for themselves.
I mostly say this: “No matter what I do, I come first“.
And it doesn’t mean I ain’t concerned about others, or that they ain’t important to me.
The question is; “If I am not fit how can I care for others? If I can’t be Me or speak out for myself, how can I do same for others or encourage them to do same?”
Most people are trapped in their own selves because they chose to sacrifice their happiness and live for others who don’t even care about them.
There’s nothing wrong in loving someone and wanting to even give them your world. That’s actually so sweet but where do you plan on living after that?
If you don’t take care of your needs you will always frown and nag, and at the back your mind you will ask yourself, “When is it going to be my turn?”
A lot of women have been groomed on the need to sacrifice, putting their dreams behind them to fulfil those of their children, husbands and families, forgetting about themselves. This later makes them resentful, angry and bitter.
They then tend to expect their children to live the dream they gave up on. The child grows up only to say, “NO! That’s not mine, I want to live my own dream”.
The argument begins because the woman feels she sacrificed so much for them. The child on the other hand says, “I never asked for it”. This is going to hurt real bad because in actual fact, they never did.
Even if they do live out your dream they’re never going to be passionate about it. The futile cycle then begins.
Consciously become aware of what your needs are, and know that nobody can take care of you better, than YOU.
The scripture puts it in a plain simple sentence “love your neighbour as yourself“, so if we hate our own selves as much as not to live fulfilled how can we love and help our neighbours fulfill themselves.
So be yourself, love, and have a health plan. Have for yourself some me-time where you do good stuff for yourself and develop yourself. Pick the habit of learning something new each day and by so doing you begin to discover your true self and expand in your own capabilities
Growing up is not about changing to become what will be okay and enough for others, rather is becoming more clear about yourself.
Love is giving everyone the freedom to be what they are and want to be in order to be fulfilled, not what you want them to be; that is selfishness.
Have the freedom to be You, ambitious enough to be completely fulfilled and you will excel beyond your own expectations.